leverage

martie 24, 2010

as long as you’re with me and agree that we’ll try to ignore the questions as to why i’m not getting a job, i can make nice and tell you about a workshop on ‘getting a job’ that i went to on friday. (wooo it’s a long time… the days in between were kind of taken with how annoyingly cold it was all of a sudden. but now it’s better again. humph.) so, the workshop. i need to emphasize that i’m not trying to be sarcastic here. it may sound sarcastic because that is my angle on this kind of things…but i have realized they are at least as real as my ~things, so yeah.

the workshop, and a bunch of follow-ups to it, is held by a non-profit organization that aims to help young people get jobs. i don’t mean dishwashing jobs, although i could use a little help with that too. the most used word of the day was – any guesses? – ‘networking’. to the extent that i turned to the girl sitting next to me and told her „let’s network at the break”,which we then kind of did.

she’s looking for a job teaching english (unlike me, she’s very convinced that that is what she’s looking for. great.) and wants to learn french, which is why she picked montreal. i like people who think like that. so we’re going to go to french classes…i dunno if together, because i’m changing freaking arondissements next week. but still. and this girl taught english for 4 years in korea before. i mean she’s good.

and she brought her current korean roommate along. which, i cannot logically explain how after the workshop i ended up going ‘shopping’ with said korean roommate , who wanteed to buy a bag. it was weird but fun. so, again illogically, because it happened to be friday night, we ended up in a pub on crescent street with a group comprising korean girl’s korean-speaking-montrealais-buddy and…a romanian guy. so i ended up speaking romanian most of the night, with surprising and probably very loud abandon. at one point it must have occurred to me that i was kinda doing networking.

but i was doing it ass-backwards, and aimlessly, which at some points bothers me and at other points not. returning to ‘leverage’, the definition of which i still don’t exactly grasp…the second-most used word in the workshop. („it’s a buzzword right now”, the facilitator told us.) it simply means selling your potential. and in the end, the potential that i’ve got is all about being uncontrolled  and charming at-first-sight once in a blue moon, and telling people stuff about a pretty limited range of things (i guess) that i’m counting they haven’t heard of before. maybe? who knows? and then something happens because of that. not always, but sometimes.

Reclame

thank you st patrick, thank you ste catherine

martie 16, 2010

so, yesterday: i wake up totally woozy with the sound of drums and trumpets in my head. first thought is, c’mon, i can’t be so hungover, it was only 50 ml of vodka, okay? then i BLINK* and realize these important facts: a) it’s almost noon, like 11:08-ish b) nope, it’s past noon, because the hour just changed. ow great. c) it’s freaking raining, which doesn’t help anything. it might justify my oversleeping though. and d) the trumpets and drums and other stuff are the live sounds of a parade passing right by my window. e) immediate logical deduction (meaning by this time i’m awake and sort-of-washing) that the parade is a st patrick one, three days before but i’m reasonable enough to understand they had to do it on a sunday.

alright. celto-phile that i am, i go to the window to stare at the parade. poor people marching in various uniforms in the rain, and shamrock stuff and the chariot with the, whatever, lady with a crown on her head sitting in front of a harp, then more bagpipey things, not very many spectators – it’s raining quite heavily. so i turn my computer on and whoops there’s an email from someone i wrote to last night about a room (i.e.while drinking and chatting to yael at the same time. oh well). so the email asks me to come for a room viewing AT HALF PAST ONE meaning in 50 minutes. hallelujah. i’m right outta the door…

…and on the metro, because the stop is mont-royal (i’ve determined) but i’ll need to walk some from there. i actually have to walk kind of a lot for a person who doesn’t own an umbrella anymore. but who cares. during rain it’s so obvious that montreal is brown/green where vancouver is grey/blue (do i have to explain this better? maybe i’ll try later). ironically enough, this route is pretty close to the one i took the other day for my non-existent appointment. the streets are empty, the houses look smaller and humbler under the rain, but the tall stairway is pretty steep, i keep checking the time, i’m wet but punctual, then i meet cynthia and i kinda fall in love.

c’est cynthia, ma colocataire:). she’s quebecoise, my age, teaches in an elementary school and volunteers in teaching french (and might hate me if she knew i was writing about her…i guess). she’s a mixture of…mmm christine leclerc, for whoever knows christine; and ramo szilagy, for whoever knows ramo. very slight and energetic and smiling and full of…goodness. (once, in a convo with lora about what makes people good, i suggested that „people who like me [carmen] must be good” is not such a presumptous statement. people who manage to like me usually like EVERYONE plus are paragons of patience. anyway it’s a useful criterion.) back to cynthia. so she shows me the room, the other rooms etc, and we’re chit-chatting when another room viewer shows up. it’s a guy who can’t speak english…cynthia continues the apartment tour, this time in french, which i understand. somehow i manage to drop a few words in french into the whole ‘presentation’. turns out the guy thought i was cynthia’s friend, not another (uh-uh) contender. so he’s like „aha, vous voulez la chambre? alors, vous pouvez l’avoir”or smth. no really. c. saves the situation saying she’ll email us both tomorrow etc and the guy leaves and i stiiilll stick around for some minutes. seriously now she invited me to stay. anyway.

so she wrote me and we met today and we walked a bit and i spoke french for half an hour. this is so cool. and i swear the room is ok, although the room as is is like 30% of the deal. affordable, and has a window (it’s really small though) and the place is not freaky tidy and is cozy. and i picked my favourite spot: at the end of the hallway (it’s one of those long apartments, wagon-style, right?) there’s a small office-like corner with a desk. opening into the balcony. love love love. the location…i don’t know, i’ll have to learn to use buses cause it’s 17 mins from the metro, which i hear in winter can be lethal :). the street is des erables, extra golden star cause i’ve always wanted a french name for my street. and i believe it’s lovely. east plateau-ish but still the plateau, so whatever. and from the glimpses i’ve had c.’s friends are cool too. oh, there’s a blue parrot in the place but he can’t speak yet. can you tell i’m excited though??:))

(* – i’m pretty sure i’ve promised to apologize to yael every time i use the word „blink” in writing again. sorry:)))


funny french

martie 15, 2010

(short parenthetic post for at-least-a-little bilinguals)

– the first joke, back  in vancouver, on what my first translation reflex is when i see the word „pain”. also, how in quebec „bread is pain”. true. and i haven’t even touched the knishes yet!

– carmen on first day in montreal: „why do they have so manny schools for good manners?” (ecole de conduite). seriously!

– carmen reading newspaper: „alcool au volant” = „drinking while flying”; „lever de fonds” = „lifting funds”(instead of collecting). also, i read „biais” as „bias” for a full couple of days.

-most humiliating mistake i made while actually talking to someone. i said „j’entends” instead of „je comprends” le francais. some days really are better than others for this kind of thing.

– funny phrases: „capacite de reseautage”; „coup de gueule”; . ugh there are others, but i don’t understand them…i.e. „sombrer dans la cucul  la praline” – too much french for me

– favourite additions to vocab: „ostie” :); „embauchons”; „allechant”; „epargner”. make sense!?


be warned about karma

martie 14, 2010

(i am, of course, writing this while sipping my vodka with orange juice; very classy. it took almost 10 days, in case anyone’s counting. but what i want to say is:)

a) i was talking to sonja recently about people who were wronged, under spooky circumstances[i.e. which could make a good story], and who still manage to come out looking ridiculous…and we (or is it just me??) realized it’s because they don’t tell the story for the anecdote, they tell it to vent their rage and care about establishing that they were wronged more than about how they come out looking. so they get their instant relief. (somehow in life everybody does get what they’re after; or what they bargain for.). righteous helpless anger is one of the most comical things ever. despair&co is annoying/or touching. but ranting as a response to injustice will never convince anyone of anything.

b) so. someone long ago taught me a good trick for going through life with decency (pity i can’t live by it often).it’s the flipside to a). it goes, what to do when you have trouble? whisper it to a hole in the wall. (this is a quote or at least paraphrase off ‘in the mood for love’ si je me souviens. also:)

c)”je me souviens” – the dumbest motto ever. i moved to a province where remembering is stipulated on the coat of arms. i also bought a bag of madeleines this afternoon, and watched myself eating them. it was…overkill. you know: pleonastic.

so back to the other thing about today. i was going to wait until i can see the fun of the situation and the other angles of it, including those of the other people involved, and their mental processes, through the yellow light of this…cocktail glass. but, hey, here it goes: people who want to rent their rooms quick, and post craigslist ads, and email back and forth with me – please: if you’ve made an appointment and you logically assume that i will be there at a certain place/time, and all of a sudden you don’t feel like keeping the appointment: let me know. i have an email, now i have a phone. i’m half-equipped to deal with glitches. or, theoretically, with rejection. what i’m unequipped to deal with is lack of thoughtfulness and foresight. mine, nevermind yours. WHY WOULD YOU NOT SHOW UP FOR AN APPOINTMENT AT YOUR PLACE THAT YOU SET THE TIME FOR? you’d better be more prepared for your appointment with karma soon, coz i hear she’s a bitch. ok. done.

i mean, can you see me actually mentally preparing for the interview (pathetic), then going out, taking the metro to laurier and then walking 20 mins to de lorimier (i wouldn’t even want to live there, a part of my brain is telling the other) and then ringing a bell for 20 mins? while all this time the person is not there? i just did that and i can’t imagine it. i think i need quebec-experts to explain a bit.

but also, this glitch raises another problem. the degree of closeness or honesty or storytelling flourish that i want to put into this blog. it’s hard to write when i’m pissed off, when i’m depressed, when non-montreal-related shit happens, AND keep a good tone. it’s hard to be in montreal in my mind right now. but at the same time it’s still early days, easy to remind myself that 1)any attempt should be whole-hearted. i should do my best at being me here, ridiculousness as part of the deal; and 2)writing – a blog, if not brilliant stories – is also part of the deal. forever:)

p.s. i sat on a bench reading in parc laurier. the air is definitely spring, and my coat too thick. there are still patches of snow, in upper plateau-ish more than downtown. people walking their dogs. a father and son flying a small kite. i’ve never had this sort of peaceful/restless feeling since cluj. it’s definitely the weather and the landscape.


odds and ends

martie 11, 2010

– a march passed below my window the other night round 8. i don’t know what their point was. the chants started „one-two-three-four/’ and then blah-blah-blah-something rhyming with four. i was pissed that i couldn’t appropriately record it for the blog ((ex-)montrealers: where can i find out who is marching here for what?)

-going to the community center to ask about french classes. it looked like a very busy school (around 3 p.m.)- first i tried to talk to a lady, who turned out to speak no english: „je suis professeure” – alright, i explained in sort-of-french and she sent me to the secretary. stage two: i started in english; the secretary was very kind, spoke english, all ok – until i asked if i needed an exam: „no, if you speak no french, level one, no exam.” – „mais… je parle un peu…” – and suddenly, without batting an eyelid, she switched: „alors, si vous parlez un peu…[blah-blah-blah french]”. she never said another word of english to me again. and i mean, it was fine: i repeated the info back to her to make sure i understood. and i wanted to applaud her.

– i went out around noon to ask about two jobs that had been posted on craigslist last night. they’d been already taken this morning. i don’t know whether this should scare me or make me hopeful in my vigilance. plus, if i drop c.v.s first thing in the morning, i can just walk around all the rest of the day cause my purpose has been served. i was off prince arthur-laval when i realized this…beauty is much more intense when you’re a certain degree of anxious…it’s spring! nevermind the common wisdom and the huge mounds of grey snow in the yards.it was spring today on those streets, postcard-picturesque complete with graffitti and bicycles and iron escaliers, yes? and vivid colors. (off-off-topic: my favourite name for a cafe: ‘la petite idee fixe’.)

-i bought a cellphone yesterday. i’m like starved (my camera is broken too, and i am broke, so yeah) – i learned to take pictures…didn’t actually take many. but then my friend matt phoned me this evening and i was all of a sudden years and years ago, standing by the window in the dark, smiling with all my face. i felt i’d arrived somewhere: „tell me what you see.”- „i see s-te catherine…i’m on a corner, so right in front of me there’s a cheap asian noodle place…”…crossroads, and a depanneur, and a balcony still full of christmas lights. – „it sounds great.”

-at the fido store they almost wouldn’t let me buy the phone because i didn’t have a credit card. they did phone my bank and all, i mean they could have checked that i had money in my account…but no, at one point it seemed to be down to the credit card. whatever – i didn’t actually want a cellphone that much. i was about to write it off and say i tried. (clerk to me: „are you new to canada?” – „well it depends, this is my third year here.” – „and you’ve never had a credit card!?!?”. so i did this, and i’ll ask you to picture it: i raised my chin and smiled, very large and bright. and i said”no!” – in the giulia tone.)

– i tricked a shop assistant into speaking french to me, in a boutique on st laurent. i think she was my kind of shy or faux-shy, the type of people who don’t want to presume. she said the usual „bonjour hello” at first (which cracks me up every time)and when i answered „bonjour” she deduced she should go on in french. some noisy teens burst in, then out…”oh, these kids!” she sort-of-tried. no reaction from me. and then, wonderfully, she kept to french. i was so grateful that i let her convince me to try on a pair of pants that i couldn’t afford. and they fit! merde!

– on the room-hunting front…i was interviewed for the position of roommate yesterday night:), by a very fashionable girl who lives on parc/fairmont. i don’t think she liked me much:(, i think she’s too neat and hip for me. the room was cute, simple and presumably sunny, with a small fire-escapy balcony to kill for! that balcony was my favourite thing in the place! i would almost start smoking for that balcony! but the one thing that made me warm inside in the whole episode was, before going out, my current roomie asking me for my brand new phone number and giving me a call so i could call him back ‘in case anything happens’. it was so purely symbolic, but the small thought that someone here is willing to have my back…priceless. always the small things:).


the right time

martie 9, 2010

i spent all of yesterday actively panicking, so here’s an anecdote about…NOT YESTERDAY, because you don’t need to hear that bullshit:). so, before leaving i was given 2 mini-bottles of alcohol, a vodka and a liquor. i’m supposed to drink the vodka (smirnoff) in case of crisis or breakdown etc., „for medication”, my friend said. and the liquor (frangelico) is to drink with coffee, at my table, to celebrate settling into my new place. also, she wisely added when i asked why the liquor bottle was bigger than the vodka one: „celebrate with someone; medicate alone.”

my dilemma under these circumstances is: how do i KNOW when the appropriate time is for breaking the alcohol? i know it’s up to me and on the other hand it should come obvious…but nuances are gonna kill and bury me one day. i’ve wanted to drink the vodka about three times so far…and i hold back thinking wait, this is only the beginning. but i mean everything in my life so far has been only the beginning of something. and then we die. why am i not good at detecting stuff like „now or never”, „the time of my life”, „the one and only” etc?

this clearly calls for a plan of action, i.e. DOING STUFF. i know lying on a huge bed on a fluffy duvet with sun on my face for hours on end might sound like the dream life that i came to montreal for…but lemme tell ya: what i want right now is good reason  to open those bottles. i want drama. i want blog material. so i start by making lists:

1. the first thing to do is, obviously, make a to-do list. it will help me feel organized, in control, smart, clear-sighted, all attributes needed to proceed onwards.

2. writing emails and posts and MSN-chatting about my situation and condition and the things i need to do are obviously necessary: they signify commitment and my assuming responsability for my future actions. no matter what those future actions will turn out to be.

3. at some point during the day, stepping away from the computer and getting out into the street might be a good idea.

4. among the activities to pursue in the city, first (because easiest) are those that involve me giving money to other people. this always seems to work, and i may be a natural at it. shopping is investing, so lay off me.

5.i’ve decided that celebration needs to come before medication. just because it would sort of set a bar. i mean it’s obvious that i’ll be pretty down as long as i don’t have a place and job. whatever bad stuff happens AFTER must be serious and medication-worthy.

6.but to celebrate i need to be able to contact the people i’m not contacting now and whom i don’t feel like seeing because i’m not sure exactly what i could tell them about ‘how i’m doing’ and ‘how i’m settling”.

as for the gaps in my list, here’s to hoping they’ll fill themselves in at the right time.


getting there

martie 7, 2010

i am staring straight ahead at a blank white wall. from the corner to my left runs a large window streaked with dust. light is coming in generously mixed with wind, and the branches of a naked tree swaying, and two grey/brown buildings and a square of whitish sky. i am sitting on the edge of a king size bed, in an empty apartment, at 8.30 a.m. EST, drinking ness, listening to my old playlist, trying to avoid talking straight about „how is montreal?” – because i don’t know how it is. i just know this.

i’ve been here before, so i’m not a tourist. memories came back and everything made sense instantly, on the first day – major streets downtown, metro stops, check. right now i have no ounce of curiosity about the cafes or friperies on the plateau, the souvenir shops in the old town, the boutiques just down the road, all the things i’ve already seen last summer. it feels like i’m absolved from wanting to see those bits of the city ever again, which is an at least bizarre thought. but i don’t live here yet.

the strangest part about me moving somewhere new (vancouver ’07 is THE big reference) is the refusal, at first, to think of myself as a stranger. i look at these people walking by, talking in their phones, going places, moving with purpose, and i think what’s so hard about this? i can do what they do. or at least mimic it. only months later, once i feel i’ve perfected my imitation, will i let it go and start freaking out for real. i wish i could hit fast forward.

small stories happen along the way. last night i went to view a room, by appointment made on a public phone on ste catherine (yes i need a cell, yes) with a woman whose english was really shaky. the location was great – right off duluth/berri, a nice spot full of restaurants and a milling crowd. very heartening. the alley of the address looked a bit creepy, but i thought oh well…at this point i was trying to find omens in the names of the places i passed by (‘la gueule bleue’, ‘l’oiseau tonnerre’), in the grafitti (i could swear one tag on a wall said ‘trial life’, but it could be just me twisting it). the building was a set of supersmall studios (1 1/2 s, which was my plan, in my wonderful quest to life alone/independently). no one was waiting for me there. wait – why had i thought someone would be waiting for me? i’d fucking got it all wrong. i had the building number, not the apartment. then again, judging from the outside, those were not apartments – small boxes with thin-thin walls. i was in the hallway and could hear a TV upstairs, and next door someone was running a faucet, and next-next door someone sounded like they were going through a quiz on american presidents. i went a bit dizzy. i got out and found another public phone and tried to reach the woman again and again – her phone was off. i returned to the building and knocked on the closest door, 204. silence. quiet. the type of quiet where you know someone’s listening, hesitating on the other side. the door opened, and it was this 4 feet tall old lady, completely shrunken in, looking up at me in incomprehension and half-terror, from her dark cramped room – so small, so crammed with stains and old newspapers. i backed off mumbling ‘excuse me, i was supposed to meet someone and i…’ and suddenly she smiled at me, her smile even more frightening than her shock: ” aaaah, tu t’es trompe’ „. i breathed out „oui, oui je me suis trompe”, and even then i was thinking „passe compose with ETRE, not AVOIR”, then she closed the door and i turned back and almost ran.

more on the ‘moving’ business: things i lack for now: pillow, eyebrow plucker(?!), shoe polish/ spray, scissors, coffee. chair and table too but those are optional anyway. things i have recently acquired : small plushy blanket, huge bath towel, hand mirror (you have to wonder what-the-hell), monthly buss pass. this is definitely going faster than the vancouver move though. my current roomie is nice/pretty chill – they used to be a whole noisy bunch, but the others just left last night. i didn’t mind the noise at all, my sleep patterns are sooo damaged, and these kids are so young and matter-of-fact and bilingual and all, it’s charming. as long as i’ve got so much to catch up with, i’m in no danger of turning bitter. maybe i don’t want to live on my own after all.